It’s a Big Wake Up Call When You Find Out About a Family Member’s Death By Google Alert

4 min readDec 3, 2023
Remember the old days of taking the phone off the hook if you didn’t want to speak with someone? Miss that!

I just found out a relative passed- by Google Alert. I had spent time with Mary* several years ago and she was a very kind person. She was only 77 when she passed.

The person I am estranged from did not tell me. Her mother-in-law was like a mother to her, for over 13 years. I know how important this woman was in her life.

And I found out on a Google alert.

That is messed up. And the fun doesn’t stop there. A few years ago, I found out my uncle passed by a simple Google search.

Technology is a blessing but also a curse. I am tired of finding out relatives have passed on Google.

This brings me to the point of this article: The millennial trend of cutting off toxic people has to stop. Because you know what? Death is permanent.

The funeral is across the country and I can’t get out there in time. I am sending a card but I feel this important right to give condolences has been taken from me.

The person I haven’t communicated with hardly in seven years will probably never talk to me again. When I try to reach out to them, it is like reaching out to a ghost. But not even Zak Bagans or an Ouija board could reach this person.

I just emailed this person but I don’t think they will respond. I hope they do but I doubt it. My family is already small as it is, and having no contact with this person has permanently damaged my family.

It’s Trendy Now To Cut Off Family

According to Cosmo, cutting off families is now at an all-time high:

Karl Pillemer, a professor at Cornell University and author of Fault Lines: Fractured Families and How to Mend Them, found that in 2020, 27% of Americans over the age of 18 were estranged from a family member. That’s more than a quarter, although the actual proportion could be much higher because many people are still reluctant




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