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7+ Back-Handed “Compliments” That Are Actually Insults
The Midwest is the queen of nice, and passive aggression. And one thing Midwest women especially specialize in is back-handed compliments.
Back-handed compliments are when someone doesn’t like you. For me, that is my mother-in-law.
Here are some of what I have heard out of her mouth for 25 years:
1. This is a great photo of you!
Ummm….thanks? Do I normally look bad?
2. You’re not as dumb as you look.
Thanks, you aren’t either?
3. You’re on time, big surprise!
I tend to not be on time and everyone knows this. But I hate being called out for being late.
4. Your house feels so cozy and lived in.
This must be the supreme back-handed compliment.
5. You clean up nice.
So I normally look like crap?
6. You’re such a good driver!
Because normally women are bad drivers??!!
7. You’re coping with this better than I ever thought you would!
Umm…because normally I would have freaked out? Thanks for the vote of confidence!
8. You look great for your age!
Because normally a 40 something should have a walker and grey hair?
