10+ Reasons Why Second Weddings and Vow Renewals Are a Gift/Attention Grab

I know of a couple who have been dating for a few years. They are clearly super in love and a good match.

However, I have noticed that family members like to compare my marriage of 25+ years to theirs. My husband and I sometimes argue, like any normal couple. We have been through a lot in over 20 years. We have many blessings but also many challenges.

I have said to some of the nosier relatives that it is super easy to be in love and nice to each other when one has only been dating a few years.

At the beginning of a relationship, it is easy. It is easy to do favors for your partner, be nice to their family and go the extra mile.

The couple is still on their best behavior and trying to keep the relationship going. They won’t be showing their anger or skipping their partner’s family events. They will be giving 110%.

It gets harder once a couple has married, lives together, has gone through illness, deaths in the family, financial problems, etc.

Some have asked if my husband and I would never renew our vows. And I said a resounding no. I believe when I committed so many years ago, I meant it.