Gifts are not just gifts. They can also be coded messages. And what better time to send a passive-aggressive message than Christmas?
It’s normally not socially acceptable to give bad or passive-aggressive gifts for the rest of the year. Especially on someone’s birthday. Or weddings. But Christmas is the perfect time to send a message!
Passive-aggressive people tend to give these types of gifts because they don’t have the guts to just tell the person they don’t like them. Or give them some old-school coal in their stocking. So they resort to what they think are subtle gifting messages.
I have been given passive-aggressive gifts and it sucks. Some are downright aggressive! This is an aggravating one for me. I have gotten so many passive-aggressive gifts. And there is no good way to say thank you and be ok with it. What do I mean by that?
One year I got a diet book from a well-meaning friend, who always was worried about my weight “for my health”. Another year I got sugar-free candy from someone who thought (assumed) I was diabetic. The list goes on and on. And of course, I have received many re-gifts, some with the wrapping paper still attached.
Another year my cousin was given maternity clothing from her mother-in-law, who was hoping for a grandbaby.
If you exchange gifts with someone who has previously been a passive-aggressive gift giver, is really can suck.
And sometimes you will be forced to buy a gift for someone you don’t like. For example, you don’t like Cheryl in accounting. But you picked her name for the gift swap. What to do?? Or your sister-in-law regularly ticks you off. But you need to bring something to the holiday party. Here are some ideas!